Why the grass seems greener on the other side…
Dreams and reality are two great forces which affect man. These forces tug and pull in every aspect of our life, be it personal, social, work, relationships. Like any tension we live, it can be lived in a positive or a negative manner. It can help one grow or cause them to retreat into helplessness. The key is living the tension of this relationship, between dream and reality, well.
But sometimes we find ourselves looking at the grass on the other side, and we notice that it looks greener. Even if we’ve just come from there. The dreams we create, with the reality of others, just don’t seem to relate with our own reality in a healthy manner. Dissatisfaction sets in. Take the time to look back and reflect – what makes you unhappy with life? Why does the grass on the other side make us unhappy with life?
We’ve all been there, when you’re going through a rough time at work, your friends’ jobs seem so much more straightforward and rewarding. When you’re in a relationship that seems to be going no where, your friends’ relationships seem like they’re flourishing. When you’re trying to get your life in order and balance, everyone else seems to already have it all figured out. The grass on the other side seems so much greener, but is it really?
When reality gets tough we often dream to distract us, and to remind us of the ideals that are guiding us. To live a dream seems so much nicer than having to face the harshness of reality.
Where the grass actually is greener
Now, I have news for you, the grass might be greener on the other side. But if it is greener, is it not greener because it is on the other side. It seems greener because it is on the other side. If it is actually greener, it is because it is taken care of. Yes, the grass is greener, where it is taken care of, where it receives sunlight and is given water. And if we only focus on the grass on the other side, then we’re going to neglect our own grass. Commitment to the reality we are in is crucial. If our approach to dull grass is moving to greener pastures, then wherever we go, the grass will become lifeless when life’s difficulties crop up.
We become unhappy with life when one of these two, dreams or reality, tries to exert its dominance and suppress the other. It might even seem natural that each one would seek to oppress the other. But it is not. The way to a happy life is to get dreams and reality to reconcile with each other within us and flourish together. Each one of these two can help –push– the other, so that we are able to seek a more fulfilled, and happy life. Dreaming is nothing without the base of reality where to dream from. Reality is nothing, it becomes stagnant, if does not look past itself, to what it has the potential to become.
Yes, it is easier said than done, so how can we reconcile dreams and reality? I propose a healthy dose of humour and gratitude. In fact, this post has two more posts to follow, covering humour and gratitude as instruments to ‘take care of our own grass’.